Wednesday, 4 January 2012

Strength of A Woman

Women Have a lot of Qualities that Men Secretly envy.
1) That "multi-tasking" thing- Maybe it's because men were once mighty hunters intensely focused on tracking prey, while women had to manage the food, the fire, the cave and the kids all at once, but women are far better at multi-tasking than men.
A research study at Duke University found that female rats learn multiple cues to navigate a maze, remembering both visual landmarks and the maze's geometry, but male rats only learn the geometry.
The conclusion was that female brains are better able to comprehend multiple concepts at one time than male brains.
Other researchers argue that, in humans, it's not hard-wired into the brain at all, it's simply that women get more practice multi-tasking than men do, so they're better at it. Whatever the reason, men often get confused or overwhelmed when asked to manage too many tasks at once - and they admire the fact that a woman can toss in a load of laundry while updating her resume, then answer the phone and pay for the pizza - all at the same time.

2) Expressing emotion- When little girls cry, their parents cuddle them and kiss away their tears. When little boys cry, they're told to get over it and stop being a cry-baby.
And, for the rest of their lives, men are pressured by society to be strong, unafraid and unemotional. Until, that it, they get in a relationship and suddenly they're supposed to talk about their feelings! It's really not fair when you think about it.
Men feel all the same things that women do - they're just not supposed to express it. Fear, sadness, giddy joy, frustration, all of these emotions are supposed to be played out in a "manly" fashion, with quiet dignity. The only emotion, in fact, that men are encouraged to express is anger - so is it any wonder that domestic violence is such a problem?
Women, however, are allowed to cry when we're sad or frustrated, jump around squealing with glee, and talk about how scared they are. Because of this, women are better at identifying their emotions, and are more open to experiences that will inspire them to emotional extremes.
It's as if women have a crayon box with a hundred different colors, but men only get one brown crayon - and if they were really honest, most men would admit that they're jealous.

3) Women are strong- The stereotype of woman as "the weaker sex" is dead wrong, and men know it. Women give birth, hold down jobs while raising children, put their own needs on hold to care for others, do most of the housework and manage the emotional issues in their relationships.
Women play sports, wage war and lead nations, and they don't fall apart when they have a head cold. In the 18th century, author Samuel Johnson wrote, "Nature has given women so much power that the law has very wisely given them little." Men envy - and even fear - women's strength, and they secretly admire that they are capable of doing so much, often for very little visible reward.

4) The ability to remember absolutely everything- Women have terrific memories, perhaps because of that multi-tasking skill. They remember names, dates, birthdays, anniversaries, who gave them a certain gift on Christmas five years ago, and the color of the blouse they were wearing the day they met her third boyfriend.
Men, on the other hand, remember only what they have to, or things they find especially interesting. Sports scores? Check. The specifications for the computer he's thinking about buying? Check. That it's his turn to pick up the dry cleaning? Well ... not so much.
In her book "The Female Brain," neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine wrote that women, in addition to differing from men in levels of estrogen, cortisol, and dopamine, have 11 percent more neurons devoted to emotions and memory.
Researchers studying the brain continue to find differences in memory function between men and women - studies have found that women recall more emotional autobiographical events than men, produce memories more quickly and with greater emotional intensity, and report more vivid memories than their spouses for events related to their first date, last vacation, and recent arguments.
So it's not that men don't want to remember all those seemingly insignificant things - they just don't have the right kind of brain!

5) The depth of feminine friendships- Men have buddies, women have friends. It's not unusual for women to keep close friends for 20 or 30 years, while men often have superficial relationships based on common activities like sports, hobbies or drinking.
It's not that men don't want intimacy in their friendships as much as women - they do.
But women's friendships tend to be based more on emotional connection and conversation, characterized by a lot of self-disclosure and mutual assistance. Men's friendships, being primarily activity-oriented and based on shared experiences, aren't perceived as having the same emotional richness as women's.
It's one reason why so many men call their wives their best friend - relationships with women allow them to have the sort of conversation-heavy, emotionally satisfying friendships that women come by so naturally.
Gender differences aren't as great as we often tell ourselves that they are. People, whatever their gender, generally want the same things - honesty, kindness, love.
If the emotional/psychological balance sometimes seems tilted too far in one direction or another, it all evens out in the end. Revel in your strengths, knowing that women are as strong a force of nature as men, and that you have gifts that they secretly envy
6) She has a life of her own and it's pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life's pleasures — from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence," says Daily. In other words, you're not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your "real life" started.
7) She never makes the first move. This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But Daily says that she strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Her reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it's just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren't programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase, Daily says.
8) She is sexy without being trampy. This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road, Daily says. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it's okay to play footsie under the table.
9) She waits to have sex. Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a "pure white bride" nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Daily says that many women don't even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as "the cuddle hormone"), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Daily warns that if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Daily's advice is to wait at least one month into the relationship before having sex with your new man.
 10) She does little things to show she cares. Daily has one friend who noticed that her traveling salesman boyfriend never had time to get his shirts washed, so he would just go out and buy new ones. Her friend started to drop off his laundry at the dry cleaners once a week. Daily herself cooks for her husband. "It's as if he doesn't even know where the kitchen is," she says. "But that's not to say that he starves when I'm out of town." No, you do not have to turn into June Cleaver. The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you. Daily boasts that her man scrapes the ice off her windshield on cold winter mornings!
11) She should be her boyfriend's best wingman — err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, advises Daily. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.
12) She never turns on the pressure. This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure, says Daily. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together. "Men don't want to constantly take the pulse of a relationship," says Daily. "They would rather just enjoy it."
13) She does not take any crap — from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can't get away with anything. If he knows there's a penalty — like getting thrown to the curb — for a serious violation like cheating, he'll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.
14) A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. "Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is," Daily says. You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.        
15) She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation. Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Daily says that some women have an "a-ha" moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. "I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own," Daily says. "A certain amount of toe curling is key as well.
16)  Supportive. She is a figure who always support you in your life as well as your career and always by your side when the whole world walks out. As we know, our society tend to require a man to be a strong man and not a fragile person, but sadness and stress that come repeatedly will destroy you if you don't vent your feelings. Thus, a good woman can be the best listener by providing support and comfort for you. She also gives you freedom to develop yourself as you want.
17) Independent. This characteristic is important because it means she can manage and take care of herself. It will be very annoying when you have to be her 'babysitter' all the time, right? She can go home by herself when you can't pick her up, she can go shopping by herself when you can't accompany her, and she can rely on herself when you can't help her. Independent woman is a woman who can stand by her own feet and walk alone when you can't be there (of course she still respects you as the leader)

18) Beautiful inside and out. From the outside, she is not a woman like Taylor Swift, Kate Middleton, Megan Fox, or Jessica Alba, but she looks beautiful and attractive in her own way, her simplicity and friendliness. From the inside, you notice that she is a person who has an extraordinary and inspiring personality. 
19) Confident. She loves her imperfection, perfectly. She doesn't hurt herself or dying to be famous and beautiful like a movie actress. She doesn't try to be someone else, she is confident of herself and (of course) proud to have you by her side.
20) Respects you. You are the leader and she, as your partner, has respect for you and the decisions you make. She doesn't make you afraid of her and look like a loser. But of course, you have to respect her too by not humiliating and treating her like a slave.
21) Know when to speak and keep quiet. She knows which stories that can be told to her friends and which ones don't. She doesn't like to gossip about your bad things and your relationship. She knows when to speak and listen to your words. She also can speak tenderly (without yelling) when she expresses her opinion to you.
22) Loyal. Someone who's in normal or happy circumstances tend to be a kind person. Don't immediately assume she has a good character when she is in such conditions, just wait until you have some problems. Then you will know her true character and who she really is. Women who are not loyal will turn around and leave you when you face problems, either minor or major ones. While women who are loyal will remain by your side to face the problems together. That's why you need time to evaluate your partner before moving to the next stage of your relationship.
23) Doesn't fall in love with your wealth and social status. In this modern era, money is something that has tremendous appeal. Money can buy positions, power, authorities, even 'love'. Of course they love the money not the person. Although money remains an important thing to think about (you can't eat and shop without money, right?), but a good woman won't put her love on your wealth because she already has something more valuable than money... You. Think about this... Love of money is only temporary because wherever the money goes, that's where her heart is... But love that comes and grows from her heart to you will last for a lifetime. Why? Because wherever you go, that's where her heart is. Do you notice the difference?
24) Simple and down to earth. There was a joke that said, "The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think." It's funny but also true. Women are good market of beauty products by various companies. In fact, MOST of their body parts are good market.. Their hair, face, ears, eyes, hands, fingers, toenails, and so on. Don't be trapped by a high maintenance woman if you can't afford her needs. It's better to choose a simple woman who still looks good with what she got, without requiring too much maintenance. In addition, she is modest and humble in everyday life, she doesn't demand a lot of facilities to indulge herself. 
25) Gets into your life. And the last thing is she knows and gets along well with your friends. She also knows your family well, helps your mom to prepare meals, travels with your family, and most importantly she enjoys it all sincerely. When she knows your life well and has a good relationship with your family, then you have a good chance to move into the next relationship stage.

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